Regeneration Settlement 5

The fifth settlement in REGENERATION is the Theme Park. In the Theme Park you will find a magnificent specimen of a roller coaster. It is neither big nor shiny and could so easily be overlooked by those people tramping the treadmill of life. Set back from the Superhighway and touched only once a day by the early morning sunshine, lays the Regeneration roller coaster. Emblazoned on the side of the roller coaster’s engine is Refocus my life’s logo and badge in all its splendour. On first inspection, it looks just like a trio of scattered letters; housed within the shape of a balloon. But on closer inspection, one realises those letters represent a mnemonic that provides those people seeking transformation with a set of guiding principles and direction. Acceptance, Information and Movement are the principles that guide the Seeker’s focus and ultimately provide it with an AIM. Only those people who wear that badge with honour have successfully ridden the REGENERATION roller coaster to Nirvana. Those special people, those Seekers of transformation can energise a room with their heart-warming tales.  They tell of the relief they felt when stepping on board and then being whisked off one’s feet by the sheer speed of the REGENERATION roller coaster. Soaring through undiscovered galaxies full of hope, wonder and fortune they harness and evaluate all their experiences. Fearful only of gravity pulling them back down into the abyss below; where the feelings of helplessness, loneliness and social conditioning prevail. The Seekers of transformation who have successfully ridden the Regeneration roller coaster have all learnt 3 vital ingredients in the Theme Park: the rules for engagement, how to embrace fear and how to build full-bodied fortitude.

​‘Rules for engagement’ is the 13th ingredient we need to consume for our REGENERATION and it is the first ingredient you get to chew on in the Theme Park.  To absorb the benefits of this ingredient we ask you to consider all the things you have contemplated doing, but didn’t do. So, why not bring to mind some of the things that you have previously contemplated doing. You can find many of them on your dream list or your wish list. Select the ones which recurrently cross you mind and remain there, lurking in the shadows, unstimulated. Write them down and then you can ask yourself a further question, why didn’t I do them, why didn’t I at least get started or why am I not doing them?

 

When you are writing down your answers, try to identify and categorise your responses into areas, which might have influenced your decision not to take action. Perhaps you are scared of entering new and unfamiliar environments. Maybe past and negative experiences have influenced your inaction. Conceivably, the people who you mix with on a daily basis might be negatively influencing your decision to take action. Do they lose out if you win? Will the changes you make to your life impact their life? Will your potential success also turn you into a competitor of theirs…? There are lots of areas you might choose for consideration here. So, please do. Additionally, you could consider the effect on yourself of other people’s judgement and jealousy; as a result of you having the courage to follow your dreams.

 

Whatever your response to the questions raised above, please understand them, because they create your rules for engagement. Knowing them and overcoming them will buy you a ticket on the Regeneration roller-coaster. Only when you fully understand the rules for engagement, only then can you release the power of the beast. When that time comes, barriers can only slow down the roller-coaster, they cannot stop it. Momentum has the power to overcome the most arduous climbs, before collecting a plethora of exhilaration tokens at the top of that hill and plunging down further into the arena of possibility.

FLAVOUR SAVER:   It’s easy to blame other people, our environment, our resources, our… for our own stagnation. People do it all the time. And yes, some of those factors might well be contributing to the challenges we already face in our daily lives. But, our ability to identify limitations and barriers in life can only highlight one true factor, the truth of the matter. The Truth defines our ability to assess, evaluate and generate problems. Interestingly, it is those 3 actions that will unconsciously propel us from our viewing gallery to the threshold of change. The threshold of change represents the gateway between 2 different worlds, the familiar world and the unfamiliar world. The familiar world represents stagnation; where you can sing along with, ‘If I always do what I’ve always done, then I will always get what I always got’. Alternatively, you can accept the rules for engagement; step across the threshold of change and into the unfamiliar world; where nothing is certain, neither failure nor success. However, uncertainty is the harbinger for fear. So, when you next stand on the threshold of change, remember the rules for engagement and make your choice between surviving a suffocating stagnation and fervently facing your fears.

​TAKE AWAY INGREDIENT 13:    Identifying problems can only transport you to the threshold of change and decision time.                                               

How to embrace fear is the 14th ingredient we need to consume for our REGENERATION and it is the second ingredient of the Theme Park. To take out and benefit from all the nutritional goodness in this ingredient, we would like you to consider the meaning of fear in your life and how you react to it. So, try and recall events from your life where you have felt fearful. Then, ask yourself a few challenging questions like: ‘how did I know it was fear’? What did it feel like? Is fear something I can touch? When you’ve answered those questions you might like to delve a little further with a few more questions, ‘Can I pick it up; is it transportable? What does it look like? How does it smell?

 

You might like to ponder on the people, events and environments that introduced fear into your world. Perhaps somebody told you about it? Maybe you read about it in a book or listened to a frightening story during your childhood? Is it possible to recall an event or a place you visited that made you feel uneasy? If you write down and record all of your recollections, you will be able to use them later in the game to identify your habits and behaviour patterns; which lead you to feelings of fear. Acknowledging when you feel fearful and how it affects your behaviour will also help you with your analysis. So, how do you behave? When and what triggers your behaviour? Can you identify any mechanisms or strategies that help you control your response…? Writing down and acknowledging the people, the events and all the other things that create a fearful response in your body will be invaluable later in the game and in the away environment, where we will provide you with a number of coping strategies.

 

FLAVOUR SAVER:   Fear is an emotional response to a perceived threat. It draws its energy from the unknown, the unfamiliar, the uncertain and the unwelcome. It unconsciously triggers our physiological responses to stress and before we know it, it has hijacked our operating system. The body goes to high alert; our awareness sensitivity goes to the next level, blood flow increases… BUT, potentially one of the most interesting things about fear is its ability to hide the things that really and personally matter to us; whilst concurrently allowing us to focus on some form of immediate action plan. Immediate action plans can take many forms. And yet they will all fall into a single response basket; which contains our physiological responses to stress - fight, flight and freeze. The following examples might trigger thoughts about your own responses in different situations and on reflection, why you made those choices. Externally, one might appear to others as a fighter, a person who has the ability to engage a foe or take on a challenge. Another individual might appear to be smart enough to take immediate flight, buying time to deliver a more appropriate response to a perceived threat… Other people take no action at all, as they become overwhelmed beneath the powerful and hypnotic gaze and swift movements of a predatory beast. However, our fearful response to perceived threats is truly quite brilliant. It hides the things that personally matter to us. It hides the things that we don’t want to lose! So, ask yourself honestly, what do you really not want to lose? Life itself, personal dignity, family respect, social status…? When you answer that question you will be embracing your fear. When you embrace your fear you will also find yourself stood on the second rung of the previously mentioned learning ladder at ingredient 6.  Accept and acknowledge your current association with fear. It will help you later, as we will learn in the away environment how you can use fear as a force for good.

​TAKE AWAY INGREDIENT 14:   Fear is firmly embedded behind us. Our emotional response to a challenging situation is our way of acknowledging what matters in our lives, as we recognise the trigger of fear in front of us.

How to build full-bodied fortitude is the 15th ingredient we need to consume for our REGENERATION and it is the third ingredient in the Theme Park. This ingredient is the staple for our regeneration. So, take your time to chew it over. You might choose to begin, by asking yourself some simple questions like: who do I like spending my time with, what do I like doing most and where do I like doing it? Your answers to those questions will identify some of your motivating factors, the things that compel you to be with somebody, to do something you like; in a place that makes you feel comfortable. We attach labels to these things such as: names, actions and location names. But, these identifiers are only insignificant surface labels. It is not your friend’s name or tangoing or being in Blackpool that compels you to be with them. It is something much deeper than that, and in the away environment you will find out what it is. In the meantime you might like to consider how many best friends you’ve had since you were a child. Their name was not the most compelling reason for your friendship, so what was?

So, why not delve deeper into the original questions and search for the factors that formulated and supported the reasons for your choices. This activity will help you find the foundations of fortitude on which you have built your life so far. You can achieve this by asking yourself more questions like: why do I like spending my time with ????? What are the motivating factors that compel me to do what I like doing most and why do I prefer doings things in one place rather than in another place? Writing out your answers to those questions will help you remember and recall what motivates and compels you to act. We cover these factors and other factors, which help you to develop fortitude, in the away environment.

Fortitude is not just about identifying motivating and compelling reasons to take action. There are numerous factors involved in developing fortitude. So, why not consider just one more factor, your habits.

 

Are your habitual practices all good or do you embrace a few of the naughty ones?  Regardless of your answer you might like to consider what thought processes you engaged with, as you analyse each of your habits, when you stood on the 3rd rung of the learning ladder (ingredient 6); where you energised your thoughts into action. Who provided you with the instruction? Who provided the plan of action? What agreements did you make with yourself? When you answer those questions you might also like to consider the type of commitment you made at that time and which personal characteristics you might have needed to commission. Did you create a routine? Were repetitions a critical factor? Was self-discipline a necessity? There are many questions you can ask yourself here, so, please do. Writing them down will provide you with your own aide-memoire of the skills you have learned to date. However, we will address those questions and many others as we learn how to build resilience and fortitude in the away environment.

FLAVOUR SAVER:    Many dictionaries proffer ‘Fortitude’ as having the following sense - strength of mind that allows one to endure pain or adversity with courage. So, it is fitting that we have included this ingredient in the Puzzle Palace; where the roller coaster of intention is most vulnerable. But what causes this vulnerability? Why do so many ideas, creations and books fail to make it into the public domain? Why do people fail to take on fresh challenges or step into the unknown? We know the answer to these questions, fear of failure. When outcomes are uncertain, the potential for embarrassment, public humiliation and shame increases. So, we choose not to continue with our endeavours. The reason for turning the other cheek is simple. We are hard-wired to seek satisfaction and avoid adversity. The answers you provided to the questions posed earlier about, who you prefer to spend your time with etc. They provide testament to and represent some of your foundations for fortitude. You have many more. More importantly they fit in with your hard-wired circuitry for seeking satisfaction; whilst avoiding adversity. Now that you can identify your foundations for fortitude you might like to learn how to protect them. So, you will find in the away environment a number of mechanisms that help you achieve this.

TAKE AWAY INGREDIENT 15:      The strength of a wall is determined by the quality and cohesion of each individual part.

FLAVOUR SAVER:    Many dictionaries proffer ‘Fortitude’ as having the following sense - strength of mind that allows one to endure pain or adversity with courage. So, it is fitting that we have included this ingredient in the Puzzle Palace; where the roller coaster of intention is most vulnerable. But what causes this vulnerability? Why do so many ideas, creations and books fail to make it into the public domain? Why do people fail to take on fresh challenges or step into the unknown? We know the answer to these questions, fear of failure. When outcomes are uncertain, the potential for embarrassment, public humiliation and shame increases. So, we choose not to continue with our endeavours. The reason for turning the other cheek is simple. We are hard-wired to seek satisfaction and avoid adversity. The answers you provided to the questions posed earlier about, who you prefer to spend your time with etc. They provide testament to and represent some of your foundations for fortitude. You have many more. More importantly they fit in with your hard-wired circuitry for seeking satisfaction; whilst avoiding adversity. Now that you can identify your foundations for fortitude you might like to learn how to protect them. So, you will find in the away environment a number of mechanisms that help you achieve this.

TAKE AWAY INGREDIENT 15:      The strength of a wall is determined by the quality and cohesion of each individual part.

 
 
 

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