Regeneration Settlement 4
PUZZLE PALACE is the 4th settlement in REGENERATION. In this settlement you get to consider what you have already achieved in your life and how you achieved it. As you consider your achievements you might also like to consider the factors involved in your success. Of course there are many factors which can contribute to our success. So, in this REGENERATION game we have chosen to focus our attention on just 3 key ingredients that contribute to our success: getting there, on track and adaptability
Getting there is the 10th ingredient we need to consume for our REGENERATION and is the first ingredient in the Puzzle Palace. If you would like to mull this ingredient over, then we ask you to consider your achievements and the route you took to get there. So, why not ask yourself how you crossed the finish line, what mental state were you in? Were you euphoric or depressed? More importantly, could a different plan bring about different acknowledgements?
So, which plan did you use to get you across that finish line? Did you show a preference for one plan over another plan or use a combination of plans? Was it a generic plan or a specific plan? As you consider your answers to those questions, you might also like to consider the relationship between your mental state and the plans you selected. The plan required by an Olympic athlete will be significantly different to a plan required by an event participant. So, our mental state and the outcome we aspire to achieve will have a bearing on our plan selection.
Which types of plan do you prefer to engage with most? Perhaps you can acknowledge the author of a preferred plan or did you write it yourself? Did somebody else write it for you? Did you follow a set of instructions? For example: are you the proud owner of an Allen key from IKEA? If you own one of those, then we can assume that you will also have read IKEA’s ‘simple’ plan (everything is simple when you know how) for self-assembly of a furniture item. Perhaps you only follow recipe plans when you are cooking or do you take a more laissez-faire attitude to cooking? A little bit of this and a little bit of that … Maybe you live a life where every single minute of every single day is planned out and changing that plan requires another plan… There are many different plans available to us in written text or online. Some of them are more flexible than others. But, do we need to follow a plan?
Some people believe in fate; in a what-will-be-will-be lifestyle. Many of them fail to see the need for a more fulfilling lifestyle plan because, what-will-be-will-be. Personally, I know lots of people who go to the Supermarket without a plan. They load their trolley will everything they like, but have no idea when they will consume it all. Their freezers are full to the gunwales with last week’s uneaten purchases. So, they pack the fridge and before you know it, the product’s run-out-date has passed. They chuck the out-of-date item complete with wrapper into the bin because they have no recycling plan. Moreover, they write off their hard earned cash and eventually make a plan to speak with their boss about a salary increase; as mediation for the rising cost of food!
FLAVOUR SAVER: Getting there requires some form of plan. For a particular group of people that means they will make a plan and for other people that means they will not make a plan. Each of these courses of action has merit and is dependent on a chosen outcome. But, whichever paths you chose to take in the past, whilst achieving your past successes, you will find that they had a couple of similarities. Something prompted you to act; a set of circumstances led you to realise that something in your life was lacking something. That point in time can be referred to as your present state. The other similarity whether planning or not planning for action was the choice you made at that time. You chose to identify a future desired state. So, look back to your previous successes and evaluate whether or not you liked using a plan; then determine who your preferred author was. We will cover this area in much more detail in the away environment.
TAKE AWAY INGREDIENT 10: For any future progress you must first identify your present and your desired state.
On track is the 11th ingredient we need to consumer for our REGENERATION and the second ingredient in the Puzzle Palace. It is an important ingredient because it encourages you to focus your attention on the different ways in which you acknowledge success and failure. More importantly it asks you to identify the markers or measures that you have been using; which let you know if you are on track to achieve your personal happiness, goal, dream or not? So, why not make a list of all the things you have previously used when measuring and identifying the difference between what you consider to be your success stories and failures.
The things that let you know you are on track or not are … But before you start, I would like you to remember that this game is about personal development and not about your bank balance, your material wealth or your outcomes. So, I hope you will consider the human element. What are the triggers for your feelings when determining if you are on track or not? What do you see, feel or hear on a daily basis that lifts your spirits? What’s going on around you that leads you to feel dispirited? How do other people affect your behaviour? Are you a negativity hoover (focussing on that one negative comment you heard during your annual appraisal rather than the plethora of positive comments)? Do you know when you’ve given your all or do you need somebody else to make that judgement for you…? There are many questions you can ask yourself here. So, please do, as they will be beneficial to you in the away environment.
FLAVOUR SAVER: Knowing if we are on track or not is a simple way of evaluating our progress. It’s a way of placing a marker in the sand; which questions our future direction. Should we continue on the same path or change direction to achieve our goals? So, you might also choose to ask yourself the question, 'are you considering changing your goal or the pathway towards it? Changing the goal is our way of acknowledging the difference between our values and our beliefs (This was covered in ingredient 2 to IDHQ). If your goal is a belief and you fail to change your direction of travel, in response to fresh information, then you might just end up where you are going! However, if your goal is something that you really value then please change your action steps rather than the goal. We will go into this in much more detail in the away environment.
TAKE AWAY INGREDIENT 11: Take responsibility for your own actions, acknowledge your own ability to mark and measure your successes and failures.
Adaptability is the 12th ingredient we need to consume for our REGENERATION and the third ingredient in the Puzzle Palace. It asks you to consider, how adaptable are you in new situations? Take a minute to reflect on your behaviour patterns in various environments and consider why you behave in such a way, then write out your thoughts, as they will become invaluable later in the game. It’s much better if you can use examples from your own life. Alternatively you can respond to the following situations. How do you react when somebody challenges the way you do things? Do you batten down the hatches, vehemently defend your actions and call forth reinforcements or do you open your mind for fresh insights? Is your mind at that time fixed and made of concrete or is it adaptable, flexible and ready to accommodate those fresh and potentially beneficial insights? And more importantly, who’s in charge of that mind and what have you got to lose?
Another question you might ask yourself is, ‘how do I react when I am given a task without sufficient resources to complete it’? Do I down tools, call the union rep and advise my partner on the likelihood of an imminent salary reduction; as a result of impending industrial action or do I seek solutions that help me to adapt, improvise and overcome the resource issue; whilst informing my boss of progress? Is your mind at that time focussed on what should happen or what could happen and what might any consequences lead to?
Last question, how do you react when your heart-stopping dream partner says ‘YES’ to going on a first date, but unfortunately can’t meet the date or timings you offered? Do you look for a new dream partner; cancel the date or do you ask the dream partner for a selection of dates and timings that might bring such an exciting liaison to bloom? Is your mind fixed or flexible? And, is it creative enough to achieve what you desire? Which mindset gives you the most options - a fixed one or a flexible one? Remember here, you are in charge of your mindset.
FLAVOUR SAVER: Your adaptability relies on your behavioural flexibility. Knowing what you want from a situation will help you open the door to your own behavioural flexibility. You already have a proven track record in adapting to new situations when you need to. Taking on a new job, learning a new skill or moving home will all provide testament to your adaptability. So, why not take note of those aspects of your behavioural flexibility; which helped you adapt to and overcome previous ‘new challenges’. In the away environment you will learn a new set of skills that compel you to become more adaptable, more flexible and more successful. But for now, just focus on your current behaviour patterns.
TAKE AWAY INGREDIENT 12: Acknowledge your own ability to be flexible and creative; especially when you are seeking what you desire. You already have a proven track record in adapting to new situations.